Calling in “The One”
An evening seminar with
Katherine Woodward Thomas
Friday 20 April, 2018, 7 – 9pm
St Columba Church, Chantry Rd, Moseley, Birmingham B13 8DJ
Learn how to overcome the inner obstacles to love and how you can become wildly magnetic to attract a great relationship. Join us for the Calling in “The One” seminar with New York Times Bestselling Author, Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of the bestselling book, Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love Of Your Life.
How to Overcome the Odds to
Find Deep Happiness in Love
Katherine Woodward Thomas
Katherine is the author of the bestseller, Calling in “The One:” 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life, a licensed marriage and family therapist. She has appeared on The Today Show, the Mike & Juliet Show and Good Day L.A., and her work has been featured in the New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Times, Time Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, People magazine, Women’s Health and many other media outlets throughout the world.
I remember when being single over the age of 30 was embarrassing. The cock of the eyebrow and the annoying questions, “What’s wrong? Why aren’t you married yet?” as though that were really anyone’s business. Thankfully that humiliation is quickly becoming a distant memory as, according to the Office for National Statistics, the number of “singletons” living alone in the UK has skyrocketed in the last decade.
Making ours the most unmarried generation in recorded human history.
The reasons for this are varied. Certainly, we’re waiting longer to marry. Divorce is also much more acceptable than it’s been in past generations. The crazy internet dating culture is also giving us so many choices that it’s harder and harder to choose just one person. And then of course “alternative families”—families that don’t fit the norm are growing rapidly, and changing the face of family.
Yet basically, if you’re someone who desires to fall in love and create a family, as the years tick tick tick by with no partner in site, then you’re basically just frustrated. And most likely trying to understand why it’s been so insanely hard to find something you just assumed was your birthright.
In trying to make sense of our perpetual single status,
most of us assume our biggest obstacles to love
are outside of ourselves, and therefore not really in our control.
In trying to figure it out, we may arrive at some hard-to-face conclusions.
That there really are no good men out there.
That women are just gold diggers.
That by now, all the good ones really have been taken.
That men don’t like women who are more successful than they are.
Eventually, most of us will come to the conclusion that we just haven’t met the right person, assuming our careers or creative pursuits have somehow gotten in the way. (Secretly fearing that maybe we’ve never actually been the right person.)
Yet all of these theories have one thing in common. They leave us powerless to manifest the loving relationship we want.
What if I told you
that your biggest barriers to love
are internal rather than external?
And that these inner obstacles, once identified, are well within your grasp to transform? That once you understand the unconscious ways you may be unknowingly sabotaging your chances for love and what you can do instead, your power of choice is restored, and you’ll be free to create deep happiness in love.
After all, nearly half a million people find love
and get married in England each year.
Why shouldn’t you be one of them?
As much as you may want love, there may be parts of you ambivalent about it. Deep down, you might question whether you deserve to have love, or you may covertly believe if you let yourself be happy in love, that you’ll somehow be hurting someone else (like your mum who was never fulfilled in love.)
Here are a couple internal obstacles to love that you’ll want to be aware of:
- Festering Resentments (Particularly Towards a Former Love)
If you’re struggling with unresolved hurt and anger, it’s probably for good reason. Your former love probably did do some hurtful things that cost you greatly. Yet whenever we find ourselves ruminating about what someone else did that left us feeling victimized, we’re failing to use our pain to help us grow from our mistakes.
Even if it was 97% the other person’s fault,
you want to be interested in your 3%.
Bottom line: Learn your lessons! Understanding your part, even if it was passive like “I didn’t speak up,” or “I ignored the red flags,” will help you to trust yourself to never make that same mistake again. Ask yourself, “How did I co-create what happened?” Then vow to do better moving forward.
- Old Agreements That Now Need Renegotiating
What prior agreements have you made with others that may now be limiting what’s possible for you to have? For example, the vow you made to your ex that you’d never love anyone more than you loved him. Or the promise you made to your kids to always be there for them 110%. Or the pact you made with yourself to never ever, ever allow anyone to ever hurt you again.
The agreements we make
serve as intentions,
our choices and actions
sometimes for years, even if we’ve
long ago forgotten we made them.
Bottom line: Take stock of the agreements you’ve made with those you’ve loved over the years, and update them to be consistent with the future of happy, healthy love!
Once you become internally congruent with the future you’re committed to creating, you’ll feel more empowered to be one of the lucky ones in love.